Stop beating yourself up.

October 8th, 2018. Stop beating yourself up. Stop repeating negative stories to yourself. Stop putting yourself down and start pulling yourself up.

You have to be your own best friend. You have to treat yourself with love and kindness. You have to start relaxing a little bit more and enjoy this magical journey.

@jamesjneed

What to do with negative feelings.

October 3rd, 2018. Our feelings and emotions are always going to go up and down like waves in the ocean. We are thinking, feeling and emotional beings. It’s unrealistic to expect that you shouldn’t experience negative emotion, because it’s just not supposed to be that way. However what you can do is become more skilled in your thoughts and emotions, so that when you feel your mood starting to go down hill, you know what to do to ride that wave and encourage yourself back to a calmer and more positive state of mind. In other words, you can become better and being able to recognise negativity building up within you before it gains much momentum, and then be better at talking yourself back to a more positive state.

What I’ve found through my own experience is that it’s all about the way that you think to yourself and how you respond to what’s happening to you. If you change the way you’re thinking about something, the way you feel about it will change to match it. So you really have to learn to be able to catch yourself when you feel your mood starting to slip, and then talk to yourself in a calmer and more positive way.

First of all you have to break the momentum. Go for a walk. Listen to some relaxing music. Meditate. Take a nap. Do whatever you find is the best way for you to switch off for a little bit, and this will begin to break the momentum. Whilst doing this, or after, begin to start softening your thoughts. What I mean by this is begin to think more softly and more generally. Listing in your mind things that you’re grateful for in your life is a great place to start. List things that you appreciate. List positive things about your life right now. Now begin to talk to yourself like a mentor about the situation. Find positives about the situation that is bothering you. Think about it from other angles. What can you learn from it? What can you take from it to make you stronger?

By doing this you will become much more disciplined in how you’re thinking and feeling and responding to the challenges that life is giving you. Over time you will be amazed at how quickly you can dissipate that negative energy, and very quickly talk yourself back to a much calmer and more positive state.

Here are some of my most soothing thoughts.

  1. I know that no matter how bad I think it is, there a still millions of people all over the world that would rather be in my shoes than their own…
  2. Things are never as bad as they first seem. Everything always works itself out in the end…
  3. I know that over thinking and over worrying doesn’t make anyΒ difference, so I’m justΒ going to let it go, relax, and see what happens…
  4. I’m just going to relax my way through this…
  5. I know that I can learn something from this. I know life is giving me the challenges in my life to help me learn and grow…
  6. I know that I have a lot of things in my life to be grateful for in my life…
  7. I’m no longer going to beat myself up. I’m going to start being my own best friend…
  8. It’s okay. I’ll probably feel better in a little bit, so I may as well just relax right now…
  9. I’m proud of myself for how much I’mΒ learning about myself and life…
  10. I love feeling calm, relaxed, and at peace within myself. I love being able to let things go…Β 

@jamesjneed

Relax with life.

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October 2, 2018. This moment is exactly as it’s supposed to be in order for you to learn and grow. As hard as it can be to see sometimes; life is always giving you the experiences that you need to help you evolve and grow as a person. If you don’t learn the lessons that life is trying to teach you, life will keep giving you the same or similar experiences until you have learnt that lesson. The more you learn from the challenges you’re facing, the faster and quicker your life will evolve.

Most pain and suffering is rooted in resisting the past or present and by creating anxiety over what the future might hold. You can mitigate all of this by accepting that this is where you’re at in your evolution right now, and that life is always trying to teach you, not hurt you.

Today make it your goal to ease off a little bit. Don’t fight against anything. Just accept what arises and focus on breathing calmly and slowly throughout your day. Talk to yourself in a calmer and more gentle way. Find positives, not negatives. Don’t rush, walk a little bit slower. Don’t let small things bother you. Hold the door open for people. Smile more. Remind yourself of the things you’re grateful for and leave alone the things that are bothering you.

You gain enormous inner power inΒ surrendering to the present moment, and if you can fully accept yourself and the present moment with all your being, you will be flooded with feelings of inner peace.

Keep learning from everything that happens to you and enjoy this magical journey. Life isn’t serious after all.

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@jamesjneed