Stop beating yourself up.

October 8th, 2018. Stop beating yourself up. Stop repeating negative stories to yourself. Stop putting yourself down and start pulling yourself up.

You have to be your own best friend. You have to treat yourself with love and kindness. You have to start relaxing a little bit more and enjoy this magical journey.

@jamesjneed

What to do with negative feelings.

October 3rd, 2018. Our feelings and emotions are always going to go up and down like waves in the ocean. We are thinking, feeling and emotional beings. It’s unrealistic to expect that you shouldn’t experience negative emotion, because it’s just not supposed to be that way. However what you can do is become more skilled in your thoughts and emotions, so that when you feel your mood starting to go down hill, you know what to do to ride that wave and encourage yourself back to a calmer and more positive state of mind. In other words, you can become better and being able to recognise negativity building up within you before it gains much momentum, and then be better at talking yourself back to a more positive state.

What I’ve found through my own experience is that it’s all about the way that you think to yourself and how you respond to what’s happening to you. If you change the way you’re thinking about something, the way you feel about it will change to match it. So you really have to learn to be able to catch yourself when you feel your mood starting to slip, and then talk to yourself in a calmer and more positive way.

First of all you have to break the momentum. Go for a walk. Listen to some relaxing music. Meditate. Take a nap. Do whatever you find is the best way for you to switch off for a little bit, and this will begin to break the momentum. Whilst doing this, or after, begin to start softening your thoughts. What I mean by this is begin to think more softly and more generally. Listing in your mind things that you’re grateful for in your life is a great place to start. List things that you appreciate. List positive things about your life right now. Now begin to talk to yourself like a mentor about the situation. Find positives about the situation that is bothering you. Think about it from other angles. What can you learn from it? What can you take from it to make you stronger?

By doing this you will become much more disciplined in how you’re thinking and feeling and responding to the challenges that life is giving you. Over time you will be amazed at how quickly you can dissipate that negative energy, and very quickly talk yourself back to a much calmer and more positive state.

Here are some of my most soothing thoughts.

  1. I know that no matter how bad I think it is, there a still millions of people all over the world that would rather be in my shoes than their own…
  2. Things are never as bad as they first seem. Everything always works itself out in the end…
  3. I know that over thinking and over worrying doesn’t make anyย difference, so I’m justย going to let it go, relax, and see what happens…
  4. I’m just going to relax my way through this…
  5. I know that I can learn something from this. I know life is giving me the challenges in my life to help me learn and grow…
  6. I know that I have a lot of things in my life to be grateful for in my life…
  7. I’m no longer going to beat myself up. I’m going to start being my own best friend…
  8. It’s okay. I’ll probably feel better in a little bit, so I may as well just relax right now…
  9. I’m proud of myself for how much I’mย learning about myself and life…
  10. I love feeling calm, relaxed, and at peace within myself. I love being able to let things go…ย 

@jamesjneed

Celebrate life.

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September 3, 2018. We should all do this a little more. Sometimes I think we all fall into the trap of taking ourselves and life too seriously. At times it’s important to just stop and remind ourselves that life is supposed to be fun, that life isn’t supposed to be serious, and that we should try to enjoy our day to day experience a little bit more.

Moving forward in our lives let’s make it our goal to celebrate the simplicity of life. Even if you’re at work, even if you’re doing chores all day that you’d rather not be doing, just smile and be grateful to just be here experiencing life. When you stop and reflect and think about it, things are never as bad as they seem. One thought that I try to remind myself when my mood dips is that no matter how I feel right now, there are still millions of people all over the world who would rather be in my shoes. No matter how bad it seems, there are still people worse off.

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@jamesjneed

Go with the flow.

August 17th, 2018. I’ve found (through years and years of forcing life!) that the secret to feeling more content and at peace within yourself, is to not resist life. Life is never unfair, life isย always trying to give you the experiences that you need in order to help you learn and grow the most. The challenges that you face, are trying to help you. Don’t resist them. Don’t fight against life. You have to learn to flow with life. You have to learn to accept the situations that are coming into your life, learn from them, move on stronger because of them, and then let them go. If you resist and push against life, you will create nothing but pain for yourself, and you will be in a constant battle that you will never win. You’ve got to learn to flow with life and then the next steps of your life will begin to fall into place for you. If you don’t accept and learn from the challenges that life is giving you, your life cannot evolve and grow. Life will keep giving you the same or similar situations until you learn the lesson that you need to learn.

You have to accept, learn, and move on stronger with love and gratitude in your heart.

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@jamesjneed